Judy Johnson
Communicator

Sex has become a materialistic thing that society has made mandatory. Sex is supposed to be the intimate bond between two people that show their love for one another. The meaning of sex can vary from person to person but the overall view of it is quite different.

Society puts sex on three different levels. One third of the population considers it a private and emotional experience that some decide to wait until marriage to participate in. Another third believe sex is an object to get the public’s attention. The last third of society have real disorders and use sex to attempt to cope with them.

There are many people across the globe that believew in saving their virginity for marriage and sex is a symbol of their love to one partner. This is the extreme version, the United States version is that people experience sex with partners throughout their lives until they find the one that they want to be with for the rest of their life. These people do not pride themselves on the number of people they have had sex with and usually do not talk about it in an open conversation unless it is with their own friends.

The opposite side is using sex to get attention of those they seek out. These people will have sex with anyone they choose with no discretion used at all. These people usually boast about how many people they have been with and brag about the new things tried not being discrete at all. The majority of these sex sessions are one-night stands some even do not even bother to get the name.

Another level society uses sex is to cope with disorders, which are either truly diagnosed or made up. The ones that are diagnosed are the people who usually have low self-esteem and use sex to make themselves feel better, either about the way they look or trying to compensate for not being in a steady relationship. These are serious matters that can affect anyone, but some people refuse to get help and sex is something that fixes the problem at that moment. There are also people that make up disorders to get people to have sex with them. Society can be sympathetic and think they are helping someone that they believe need to have an intimate connection not knowing that person is making it up knowing someone will give in. These kind of people are sick and wrong for fronting a make believe disability and tricking others to have sex with them.

I’m not saying that sex is bad or that everyone needs to save their virginity for their one true love because that one true love doesn’t exist in the American society, just look at the divorce rate. On the other hand I’m not telling people to go have random sex and give up on finding love. I have faulted myself in this area, having a one-night stand that left me feeling more alone than I was when having the sex.

As I grew up I figured out what sex meant to me and it was not to be able to tell everyone I had sex the night before or to boast the fact that “I’ve been with this many people.” Today sex is the thing that I share with my partner and her alone to strengthen our bond and keep our relationship true to ourselves not the world.

Sex is never mandatory and no one should ever feel forced to fit into this society by having sex. Sure, giving sex may satisfy the moment and may get a few minutes of power or some extra cash, but it is not worth the price of losing dignity, self worth, or the chance of being happy with a true love.

You can contact the writer at staffwriter@spokanefalls.edu